We’ve all had negative talk directed our way. I see it all the time. Coming with the territory of putting yourself “out there” it’s something I’ve reluctantly become comfortable with. With these words from Lao Tzu helping in my moments of weakness :
Do you have the patience to wait
Till the mud settles and the water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving
Till the right action arises by itself?
Realizing that you’ll never be able control other people’s thoughts and actions is very freeing. Yet it will only take us so far on any inner journey. For it’s not other people’s thoughts and actions that hurt us most. It’s our own.
Thoughts like “I am fat. No one likes me, I’m stupid, etc” help bring many of us down throughout a typical day. An internal chatter we may not even be aware of. Unless, we begin a simple practice of asking ourselves one question:
Is it true?
Byron Katie is well know for asking this big question. Taking it a few steps further, helping people understand that most suffering is in our minds, with these four questions:
Question 1: Is it true? (Ask yourself if what you are telling yourself is true. Isn’t it really only your own perspective?)
Question 2: Can you absolutely know it’s true?
Question 3: How do you react—what happens—when you believe that thought?
Question 4: Who would you be without the thought?
A process you may want to practice to help decrease any “shit thoughting” you’ve directed your way. Today, try to catch yourself when you bring yourself down. Take a deep breath and ask:
“Is that true?”
You may soon come to the realization that there can never be a full truth in any spoken word or thought. We are all much bigger than our thought cages. You have the power to reclaim your divinity in any moment you choose. Do us all a big favour and remember that.