Sometimes I unconsciously attempt to “fix” people. Saying “you should do this or that.” The thing is, people aren’t cars. We all have free will and sometimes don’t like or want to be fixed. Add to this, I consider myself a pretty good mechanic for the “josh” model, but don’t necessarily know the inner workings of other people. What works for me, may or may not work for you. As Marylyn Monroe realized when writing “Only parts of us will ever touch parts of others – one’s own truth is just that really — one’s own truth.”
In my experience, “fixing” other people generally doesn’t work. Unless, help is asked for. Even then, you may not be able to serve unless you have an intimate understanding of the other person. A more logical option may begin with starting with yourself and staying there. Continue evolving your own personal model until it’s so shiny and sparkly other people wonder how it’s done. Then, when help is asked for, you share. All while enjoying the ride.