The illusion of limitations
The fifth of life’s great illusions states that limitations exist. Look deeper and realize, the primary reason most people’s dreams aren’t fully realized is because they become addicted to the perceived inconsequential security of dreaming. If you can learn to take the next step, which includes doing two to three things each day that you can start and finish, your “impossible” will begin to become “probable” and eventually “actual.” Pablo Picasso got it right when he said “Everything you can imagine is real.” Let’s explore…
Remember lesson one? We discussed that #1 regret of people on their death bed, by a long shot, was: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. I don’t think anyone wants to die with their music left in them. Or end up on their death bed saying, “What if my whole life had be wrong?” as the lead character states as his last breath in Leo Tolsstoy’s, The Death of Ivan Ilyich.
NY Times Best-selling author Marianne Williamson says “Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love. The real miracle is the love that inspires them. In this sense everything that comes from love is a miracle.” Something Marianne personally proved to me in Los Angeles in 2014.
Listen to your gut
The first way to overcome the illusion of limitations is to practice following your intuition. Most things I do are based on this one guiding principle. I trust my gut above and beyond any logic or reason. When I feel a tingly sensation in correlation with a thought or experience, I follow it through. Even if it doesn’t make sense at the time. And, I’ll be honest, when I reached out to Marianne asking her if she’d like to go on an East Coast Canadian tour, I knew very little about her. One day, while researching inspirational speakers to bring to Canada, I came across a photo of her and got that tingly feeling. So, I followed it. Same thing happened with the Stanford’s. A Los Angeles based family who are in the midst of the fight of their lives with Cancer. I saw a CBS news clip of them on the internet and was overcome with tingles.
Part of the planning for any surprise involves reaching out to someone close to or within the family. They act as our accomplice, helping us find out what wishes we should grant, etc. During my first meeting with Jade Stanford (our accomplice on this occasion and the matriarch of the Stanford family) I was shocked to hear that Marianne Williamson had actually married her and her husband Robbie almost 25 years previous. Add to this, Jade and Robbie, had been wishing for their marriage vows to be renewed by Marianne for some time. Without any previous knowledge of our relationship with her.
An unbelievable sequence of events placing me in the perfect position to connect the dots between the Stanford’s and Marianne Williamson. All leading to this beautiful moment when we surprised the Stanford family by bringing them to Marianne Williamson’s house to have their marriage vows renewed.
What you see here is a miracle in action. A love moment that would not have had the opportunity to express itself had I not followed my intuition. Click photo to see a video of this amazing surprise.
Act on your dreams
The next way to rise above limitations and create your dream life asks you to take action now. You were given a body for a reason. And it wasn’t so you could sit on your ass and watch TV all day. Or, for that matter, sit in front of a computer screen wishing you were somewhere else. Your brain and body were built to realize your dreams. You playing small and not listening to the voice of the universe will only lead to pain. Ralph Waldo Emerson understood this when he said “Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” Jump and your life will appear is only scary if you think about it too much.
Visualize your dream as being a present reality now
Go back to the age old question your guidance councellor may have asked. “If money were no object, what would you be doing as your job?” Once you have the present moment awareness of a future dream in mind, feel it, assume its happening in present day reality. Now, think of 2-3 things that you can start and finish today that will bring this dream to reality. For my dream of launching a successful book to become a reality, writing this blog post was one of my 2-3 things to do today.
It’s OK to have more than one dream, just be careful that you don’t overwhelm yourself with too many things to do each day. It’s the surest killer of dreams. Today, my biggest dreams are 1) to publish a book that will help millions realize their dreams and self actualize 2) Establish a home base that myself and my family can call home 3) Create a TV show that will see Ingrid and I travel the world granting wishes for people in need 4) Continue to produce inspirational events around the world.
If I attempted to do 2-3 things for each of these dreams per day it would overwhelm me and I’d probably end up ditching them all. Remember that focused attention and intention is key to overcoming the supposed impossible. Rome wasn’t build in a day and either are your dreams. In fact, most big dreams take 5 years to realize. Work on the dream that is calling your name today and give it everything you’ve got.
Look for the solution
The final way to overcome your limiting beliefs is to realize that there are no problems, only challenges with solutions. Make today a blank slate. Forget about the things you’ve screwed up. They’re already taking too much space in your head. Remember the dreams they’ve crowded out. You are infinitely awesome and pure. Remember that. We all screw up and always will. Accept it. Take your failures and learn from them. That’s what they are for. Don’t get too attached, because they aren’t who you are. No one reaches the top of the mountain. We just go deeper into ourselves, remembering who we truly are. And, there’s one thing I can guarantee: thinking you’re a “bad” person doesn’t help.
Right now, you might begin distancing yourself from the word “failure.” Instead remember Thomas Edison’s quote, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” You are everything you are today because of the challenges you have overcome. Rise up and go find a few more.
How do you see through the illusion of limitations?
- Learn to follow your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, that’s a sign to relook at it. Don’t complicate things.
- List your dreams but bring everything to the present. Do 2-3 things every day that you can start and finish that will help make your dreams a reality.
- Don’t overwhelm yourself. Focused attention and intention is key.
- Look for solutions not at the problems. Fail forward.